1、控制好欲望的边界，别被各种炫富信息、各种情怀消费带着走。当欲望的边界合理的时候，人可以乐于生活、享受生活；当欲望的边界不断扩展的时候，人会被实现欲望所需要的的资源（金钱、权力、地位等）拉着，成为不断奔跑的奴隶。Control the boundaries of desire, and don't be swayed by various flaunts of wealth or emotional consumerism.When the boundaries of desire are reasonable, one can enjoy life; when these boundaries expand incessantly, one becomes enslaved by the resources needed to fulfill these desires (money, power, status, etc.).
2、把控社交，而不是被社交把控。很多时候，为了塑造社交形象，人们付出了太多心力、参与了太多羁绊，有可能变成一种习惯性，甚至成瘾性的过度行为。这些资源如果用在对自己生活真正有意义的事项上，性价比会高很多。Control your social interactions, rather than being controlled by them. Often, in order to shape a social image, people invest too much effort and get involved in too many obligations, which might become habitual or even addictive overdoing. These resources could be better spent on things that truly enhance one's life, providing much greater value.
3、有长线的积累，是生活之船的压舱石。这个积累，不仅仅指积蓄上或者资产上的，也有个人能力和技能上的。人们可以尽量去从事能够积累自己竞争力的行业（经验敏感的，信用敏感的），或者在某些爱好上进行长期的投入，使之可以变成支撑生活的备案，这样，即使遇到黑天鹅，人们的生活也很难被击穿。Long-term accumulation is the ballast of the ship of life. This accumulation refers not only to savings or assets but also to personal abilities and skills. People should engage in industries that build competitive strength (those sensitive to experience and reputation) or invest in hobbies that can support life in the long term, providing a safety net against unexpected events.
4、把生活看成长跑，做长线规划。杜绝那种暴富以及暴赢的主角心态，在没有足够积累的情况下，或者可能被击穿的情况下，慎重对待重大的投资和换赛道抉择。直白点说，不要在输不起的时候下大注，至少应该留有翻身的机会。Treat life as a marathon and plan for the long term. Avoid the mentality of becoming instantly rich or overwhelmingly successful. Be cautious with significant investments and career changes, especially when you're vulnerable. Simply put, don’t bet big when you can't afford to lose, and always leave room to turn things around.
5、减少被金融剥削。在各种金融产品、贷款产品、托管产品上，要减少对金融的依赖，否则自己的长期收入中，很大一部分会不知不觉变成金融的利润。Reduce financial exploitation. Minimize reliance on various financial products, loans, and custody services to prevent a significant portion of your long-term income from unknowingly becoming the profits of financial institutions.
6、对于婚姻采取审慎的态度。寻找三观一致，决策稳定，且有长远生活意识，不沉迷于社交展现的人。Approach marriage with caution. Seek a partner with aligned fundamental beliefs, stable decision-making, and a sense of long-term life planning, who does not obsess over social display.
7、保护好心理健康。多运动，少跟别人比较，有一两个能投入的长期爱好，戒除自我批判的习惯（而改为迭代和复盘）；远离玄学、哲学和一些非主流的修炼方式。Protect your mental health. Engage in regular exercise, compare yourself less to others, maintain one or two long-term hobbies, and avoid self-criticism (instead, focus on iteration and review); steer clear of pseudoscience, fringe philosophies, and non-mainstream practices.
8、学会过滤信息。减少外部的社会热点、宏大叙事、传奇事件、专家意见等一堆信息对自己心态的影响，防止被舆论和信息轰炸产生PUA效益，从而减少焦虑，减少短期的情绪波动。Learn to filter information. Limit the impact of external social trends, grand narratives, legendary events, and expert opinions on your mindset to prevent being manipulated by public opinion and information overload, thus reducing anxiety and short-term emotional fluctuations.
9、在人际关系上保持好距离感。减少主动的对他人的评价、关心、教导、指责；慎用自己的道德标准和价值观去要求他人；不要随意扩张自己的责任感，无论是对他人还是对组织、对社会、对国家。Maintain a healthy distance in interpersonal relationships. Limit proactive judgments, caring, teaching, and blaming of others; be cautious about imposing your moral standards and values on others; and do not arbitrarily expand your sense of responsibility, whether towards individuals, organizations, society, or the nation.
10、锻炼韧性和定力。在面对低潮和困难时，能熬；在面对机遇时，不要总是更换方向；在面对诱惑时，不要急于做决定。Develop resilience and determination. Endure during downturns and hardships, remain consistent when opportunities arise, and do not rush into decisions when faced with temptations.
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