AI助力亲子关系改善

五月份，我决定自己教小朋友学英语，主要是因为小学二年级还没有开始上英语课，想给小朋友打点基础。

而且网传本校的英语科目是弱项，相比区里的其他学校，本校英语平均分靠后，老父亲我很焦虑。

当时正好买了《老华商学院》课程，华总的谆谆教导“差异化，差异化，差异化”在我耳边萦绕。我就在思考，我自己亲自教，跟网课或者线下课程相比，有什么差异化，或者有什么优劣势？

我当时能想到的优势是，

第一，我认真（好像是废话，教自己的孩子当然认真）。

第二，不收费，省了好多钱（我想的都是啥呀）。

缺点：

一，不专业，我自己的英语是三脚猫水平，竟然好为人师？

二，我的情绪不稳定（双鱼座表示这个锅不背），对小朋友太凶，容易发脾气。

其他的，我也想不出来了。

不管怎么样，先实践了再说。

我的想法是美好的，每天学习15分钟即可，不给小朋友压力，主要先培养兴趣。每次学习完成之后，奖励2个积分，积累到一定分数另有奖励。

刚开始的两天，小朋友热情高涨。

然而，现实逐渐骨感。

因为小朋友发现，她没有时间看动画片了。

大概第四天的时候，小朋友刚到家，就问我，爸爸，我今天是不是没有时间看动画片了？

我支支吾吾：好像是吧，学完英语，大概8：30了，就该洗洗睡了。

她伤心，眼泪汪汪，发发小脾气。

我哄了一会儿，没哄好，我也生气：那就不学了，以后也不学了！

不欢而散。

正好这个时候，颜Sir的AI公开课来了，颜Sir反复强调AI First，深深地刻在了我的脑海里。

家庭教学怎么教，有啥优劣势，问问AI吧。

As a 合格的兼职采购，我习惯货比三家。

先后问了ChatGPT 3.5和4.0，以及Bing AI chat：

advantage and disadvantage for parents teaching child English at home

三个AI都同时提到了Be patient。但是，不得不说，ChatGPT 4.0明显高出一个段位，它的总体回答更加系统，高屋建瓴。

以下的中英文都是ChatGPT 4.0给的。

Advantages of parents teaching their child English at home:

Personalized attention: Parents can give their child one-on-one attention, allowing them to tailor lessons to their child's specific needs and learning pace.
Comfortable environment: Learning at home provides a comfortable and familiar environment for the child, which may make them more open to learning and retaining information.
Stronger parent-child bond: Teaching English at home allows parents to spend quality time with their child, strengthening their relationship and fostering a love of learning.
Cost-effective: Teaching English at home can save parents the expense of enrolling their child in private language classes or hiring a tutor.
Flexibility: Parents can set their own schedule for English lessons, making it easier to balance work, family, and other commitments.

Disadvantages of parents teaching their child English at home:

Limited expertise: Parents may not have the same level of expertise as a professional English teacher, which could affect the quality of instruction.
Limited resources: Parents may not have access to the same resources as a language school, such as a variety of textbooks, audio materials, and interactive learning tools.
Lack of social interaction: Learning English at home may limit a child's opportunity to interact with other English learners or native speakers, which can be valuable for language development.
Potential for burnout: Parents who take on the responsibility of teaching their child English may experience burnout, especially if they are also managing work and other household responsibilities.
Difficulty maintaining consistency: It can be challenging for parents to maintain a consistent schedule for English lessons, which can affect their child's progress.difficulty maintaining consistency" refers to the challenges parents may face in keeping a regular and consistent schedule for their child's English lessons. A consistent schedule is essential for effective learning, as it helps to reinforce concepts and vocabulary over time. However, due to various factors such as work, family commitments, and other activities, it can be difficult for parents to consistently dedicate time to teach English at home. This inconsistency may, in turn, affect the child's progress and learning outcomes.

家长在家教孩子英语的优缺点：

优点：

缺点：

专业水平有限：家长可能没有专业英语老师那样的专业水平，这可能会影响教学质量。
资源有限：家长可能无法像语言学校一样获得丰富的教材、音频材料和互动学习工具。
缺乏社交互动：在家学英语可能会限制孩子与其他英语学习者或母语人士互动的机会，这对语言发展非常有价值。
容易疲劳：承担教孩子英语的责任的家长可能会感到疲惫，尤其是在处理工作和家庭事务时。
维持一致性的难度：家长可能难以保持英语课程的一致性，这会影响孩子的进步。“难以保持一致性”是指家长可能在为孩子的英语课程安排规律且连贯的时间表时所面临的挑战。连贯的时间表对于有效学习至关重要，因为它有助于随着时间推移巩固概念和词汇。然而，由于工作、家庭承诺和其他活动等各种因素，家长可能很难始终抽出时间在家教英语。这种不一致性可能反过来影响孩子的进步和学习成果。

AI给出的答案，直击我的内心呀。

后来我做了适当调整，小朋友到家，吃点水果，看15分钟左右的一集动画片，她很开心。这叫保持情绪稳定，为接下来学英语做好铺垫。

然后再学十几分钟的英语，并且多加鼓励，即使犯错了，也只是当场纠正，并不指责。反复提醒自己，要有耐心，态度要温和。

我看过一个高中生家长的微博，说她孩子的爸爸给当时上初中的女儿辅导作业，发了脾气，从那以后，女儿再也不让爸爸辅导作业了。

我女儿现在还小，还不知道记我的仇。我希望自己也能控制好情绪，保持良好的亲子关系，我觉得这个是最重要的。否则，学习成绩再好，如果家庭关系、亲子关系不和谐，一切都白搭。